What Your Kids Really Need From You?
What do your kids really need from you? If you answer is chocolate or handmade cookies then you may be right but sooner or later you will realize that these are not the only things your kids need. We the parents remain busy taking care of kids, fulfilling every small wish of our children while ignoring the fact that these materialistic things are not the only thing our kids need, they also need to know about life, its problems and their solutions. They need to know that life will not be as beautiful and easy as it is for them now. They need to know that there will come a time when you will not be there with them and at that time they will have to take all their decisions themselves. Here are a few things which your kids need but the sad thing is that you probably do not know about them.
Saying Those Three Magical Words
Do you want to know how to take care of kids? If yes, then you should think beyond materialistic needs. There are some things in lives we want every minute of every day and one of them is love. Sometimes we do not say what we really want expecting others to understand us. Your kid probably never asked you to tell him that you love him but he certainly wants to hear those three magical words from you if not every day then at least once a while. Saying I love you to your kids neither takes much time nor requires any money so why not say it frequently? Here, it is important to mention that saying these three words is not enough, you have to live by them. In other words, you must make your kids feel loved. This is what psychologists also suggest.
In a book written on parenting by Laurence Steinberg, she said that parents should show their love for kids instead of just orally telling them that they love them. If you really love your kid then you must love everything and everyone he loves, this is how it works. Most of the parents stop showing how they love their kids when they start becoming older without realizing the fact that this is something kids always need even when they get old. In fact, they need extra love and support during their growing age in order to face the hurdles of life confidently.
Setting Defined Limits
Taking care of kids is one thing and teaching them important life lessons is another. Just like showing love is important; parents must also hold some authority in their hands so that the kids know their limits. Our kids do not really know what their limits are. To be honest, they frequently cross their limit as we parents have never stopped them from doing so which is certainly not good. Reading a book or an article cannot help you learn how to take care of kids if you practically do not follow the tips given. Sometimes, you have to be strict and rigid in order to teach children what they must learn – their boundaries and limits. In her book named Free-Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry), Lenore Sleazy shared a very important thing. She said that parents must discipline kids as it is good for both: the parents as well as kids.
Spend Quality Time with Your Kids
Spending time is not enough, you need to spend quality time with them. Here, it is important to mention that spending time and spending quality time are two totally different things. There is no use of spending time with the kids if your mind is in the office or you are busy replying to mails at the same time. Parents must take some time out for their kids when they are physically and mentally free from everything. Ask about their daily routine, their goals and every other detail of their life. Do not forget to share your opinion with the kids so that they may know what is acceptable for you and what is not. Also make sure that you act as a guide, someone whom the kids can trust. Kids should not feel that you are interfering too much.
Being a parent is one of the most beautiful feelings of life but being a parent is not always easy. You have to read your kid’s mind and fulfill all his needs from psychological to emotional and basic to regarding safety. In addition, you should make him the person he is proud of one day.